BathiesTime wrote:

NutsOrNot wrote:

Finally decided on my dress!! It's something I love, my bridesmaids preferred another dress on me, but the dress I picked I knew I wanted as soon as I put it on.

New issue is a bridesmaid from hell. i feel like we all need our own Almost Hitched Bitch moments.

Congrats Nuts!!! Finding the dress is such an exciting moment.
Ugh, I'm sorry about your Bridesmaid from hell... What's going on? This is a safe space to vent. haha
 

 
Future SIL drama. She's married to my fiancé's brother. She lives half way across the country so thankfully we don't see them a lot. We asked them to be in the wedding in November. The wedding is in July. In early January I picked  bridesmaid dresses and gave the girls until March 15th to order. I gave them a choice of 10 different styles which were priced from $150 - $200. Nothing outrageous. We get a group text from her and her husband asking if I can change my bridemsaid choice, because they are out of budget and they can't order them before the deadline. I flipped the ef out. They both have decent jobs AND they are living with her parents to save money for a house so they don't have to pay anything but their car payments, cell phone bills and insurance. She bragged about this to me in November. So now she wants us to pay for her dress. Not happening. So I told her order the dress by the deadline or you are out of the wedding.

I don't think $150 is a lot for a bridesmaid dress. Most of weddings I have been in I paid in the $250 range for my dress. She hates the color too. She says it will make her look pale.

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Durst_Burp wrote:

Wasn't sure where to put this but it kind of falls in the "almost hitched bitch" category- I want to know what you ladies think:

Ann and Sarah are sisters. They have a large age gap and aren't close - a short text exchange once a month, and only see eachother when the whole family is together. Mom calls Ann to tell her that Sarah's boyfriend is planning a surprise proposal next month and wants the families to be there. Ann can't go because she has to travel for work, which mom understands and is fine with.

The proposal weekend arrives. Ann doesn't know any further details about the proposal other than it will happen sometime that weekend.

Ann is upset because she never received a call/text from Sarah, mom or dad all weekend letting her know that it happened/a picture of the ring/etc.

Sarah is upset because she thinks Ann should have sent her a text sometime over the weekend congratulating her.

Sarah posted an announcement/photo on Facebook Sunday afternoon (the proposal actually happened Saturday evening), and as of the following Wednesday still had not called/texted Ann to share the news directly with her.

In this situation, who would you expect to acknowledge (send a text about) the engagement first - Ann or Sarah?

 

My first thought would be Sarah, because how would Ann know when to text/call, if she did not know exactly when it would happen. She could have easily ruined the surprise, right? But, after the announcement on Facebook, Sarah could have sent a message because at that point... tough one. 

Thanks ladies! Haha I'm "Ann" - I needed my own personal Nuts or Not. I really wasn't bothered at all by not getting a text about it, but Tuesday night my dad calls me to say that my sister is upset that I didn't text her. I said I thought the normal expectation would generally be that the person who actually got engaged is the one to announce it and I would respond with my congrats. He acted like I did something wrong and wanted me to call her and "make it right". There's more back story to the dynamic with my sister that I won't bore you all with which why I'm putting my foot down on this - but the way I left it with my dad was that at best, we are both 50/50 at fault and since she's the one who has a problem she should come directly to me to discuss it.  

I will never truly understand why, but the old saying never fails. "Weddings and funerals bring out the best and the worst in people."

Just remember that on the day of your wedding, the day basically runs itself and all you have to do is show up. Some things will go wrong but most things will go surprisingly well, so on that day just let it all go and enjoy the moment.  Best wishes to you and your future!

BathiesTime wrote:

I had a giant fight with my mom yesterday, about the wedding, and I am emotionally drained. No one told me how hard this would be, but I'm very lucky to be marrying a man that knows exactly how to calm me down. Sometimes I wonder why he's so good to me, because I'm psycho, but I just cannot wait until it's here so I can stop worrying.

 
I say this every day. Wedding planning has turned me into a crazy person. I'm letting stupid, little things set me off. If you ever need to vent, we're here!

Our wedding shower was over the weekend and it was fantastic. One less thing to stress about and it feels great. It also makes me feel less stressed about the wedding, and I think it's because there were only people I absolutely loved at the shower, and that's exactly how the wedding will be. I didn't let mine or my fiancés parents, influence who we invited. So that means no awkward "who are you again?" moments with my mom's coworker, my dad's boss or my future sister in law's second cousin.

Durst_Burp wrote:

You know after all this talk you're going to have to share at least a couple pictures of your beautiful wedding day with us. 😊

Aw. Absolutely!

meepmeep wrote:

NutsOrNot wrote:

Finally decided on my dress!! It's something I love, my bridesmaids preferred another dress on me, but the dress I picked I knew I wanted as soon as I put it on.

 
Why not let them wear what makes them feel comfortable? Can you give them a choice between a few different styles? No one pays attention to the bridesmaid dress because all eyes will be on you.

It looks like she is talking about her own dress....?? "my bridesmaids preferred another dress on me"

NutsOrNot wrote:

 
Exactly! All of my bridesmaids have picked their own style dress. I hope they all love their dress.

We had to move our wedding date up almost a month. My fiancé is in the Air Force and is getting deployed the week before our original wedding date. We were luckily able to secure our venue for a Friday Wedding and our photographer and other vendors were available.

Yes, I think letting everyone pick their own style is the way to go. Designers are making that option available so much now, that it's crazy to not let them.
I did the same thing- I found a dress that came in six different styles, so my only request was that it was our color and long. I'm excited to see it all come together.
I'm in a wedding in September and she did the same thing. Having the option to let your maids pick what they feel most confident in is wonderful.

Oh the stress! I'm so glad everyone was able to accommodate you guys! I'm sorry about the deployment! I hope he's not gone too long. Thank him for his service.
 

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I don't have any photo suggestions but I do want to wish you a happy wedding day!

My fave photo is one we took where we pretended we were sneaking out of the reception without anyone noticing.  I had my heels in my hands and my husband was doing the shush with one finger over his lips.  I love it so much I had it turned into a canvas. 

Best wishes on your wedding!

Can't wait to hear how it went BT!! 💕

So glad it was everything you hoped for!!