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2/03/2017 1:02 pm  #1


Completely unrelated- raising girls

This is way off topic from talking abt the show. But I want to know to if anyone faces this.  I have a 2 1/2 yr old duaghter.  She plays really well with a 9 yr old boy from across the street and a 2 yr old boy next door. But there is a 4 yr old girl across the street, her name is Sarah, and Sarah and my daughter don't play very well together.  Sarah plays well with the other 2 yr old boy, the 9 yr old is her brother so you know how siblings are.... But what I have noticed is when my daughter tries to play with Sarah, Sarah seems very competitive.  My daughter, Bella, does something and wants me to "look, Mommy!" And Sarah says "I can do that too!!" or "No, look at me instead!" She does not have that same "look, look at me" thing when playing with the boy.  
Are we socialized at that young of an age to be so competitive with other girls? Obviously, this is not how I want to raise my daughter.  I want her to be happy and share the spotlight with everyone.  But is this something I already have to start working on??  
Anyone else with young girls seeing this? 

 

2/03/2017 9:30 pm  #2


Re: Completely unrelated- raising girls

I view Sarah's behavior as a manifestation of an unmet emotional need. Toddlers want to know they are seen and heard.  And today lots of parents are very busy and distracted(not saying you, just generalizing) . I see both of these girls competing for your attention. Probably why your daughter prefers playing with the other kids. Totally a normal part of development.  My son can be  jealous when I give the dog attention. Continue to model the behaviors you want to teach your child.

My 3.5 year old son does something similar with winning. He always has to win and gets very upset when other kids win(even when he does not participate). Yet, he does not fully comprehend what winning even means.

 

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