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FKFriday · 4/05/2017 1:29 pm

BathiesTime wrote:
I don't have children, but most of my friends do, and we both make an effort. That's what it takes. Sometimes they get a sitter and we meet for dinner, sometimes the kiddos come along. Sometimes I go to their house, sometimes they come to me. If you love your friend dearly, it is worth it.

All of this! I make the time, whether that means coming to your place, to meet you, having a pack & play and baby gate (I do) for you to bring them over, whatever works. My friends are so important to me, and I'll put in the "work" for them. Relationships will never be the same after kids, but they don't have to end if you can work at it a bit.

No1WiderFan · 4/05/2017 7:17 pm

I made the mistake of telling a parent I was "exhausted" the other day. I got the "you don't know what tired is" speech...and I wanted to punch the guy in the face. Granted my situation is not normal, but for 5 months I was commuting 3 hours each way. Including most weekend days (so 6 hours every day on a bus). When I wasn't commuting, I was flying to LA or Miami from New York, often for the day or taking a red eye back and going straight into work. I went from January 3-April 2 without a single day off, including weekends (I got my first day off April 3, and it was thankfully to move to a location 35 minutes away from my office). On top of that, I was sick almost that entire time (basically I got a sinus infection that was infecting my lungs, which were reinfecting my sinuses...it was an awful cycle). I had about 2 weeks at the end of Feb I was healthy and just got better again.

I'm not saying my experience is any more taxing than a parent's, but I think I'm also allowed to be tired!

I'll stop complaining now. This topic just resonated with me 🙃

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piopio12 · 4/05/2017 8:26 pm

No1WiderFan wrote:
I made the mistake of telling a parent I was "exhausted" the other day. I got the "you don't know what tired is" speech...and I wanted to punch the guy in the face. Granted my situation is not normal, but for 5 months I was commuting 3 hours each way. Including most weekend days (so 6 hours every day on a bus). When I wasn't commuting, I was flying to LA or Miami from New York, often for the day or taking a red eye back and going straight into work. I went from January 3-April 2 without a single day off, including weekends (I got my first day off April 3, and it was thankfully to move to a location 35 minutes away from my office). On top of that, I was sick almost that entire time (basically I got a sinus infection that was infecting my lungs, which were reinfecting my sinuses...it was an awful cycle). I had about 2 weeks at the end of Feb I was healthy and just got better again.

I'm saying my experience is any more taxing than a parent's, but I think I'm also allowed to be tired!

I'll stop complaining now. This topic just resonated with me 🙃

I would of lost my shit on that individual. I'm raging for you.

chelchel · 4/05/2017 10:02 pm

I had two kids well before most of my friends had one. I never tried to one up them but would do a secret eye roll when friends without kids would say they needed a vacation or were so tired when I was literally waking up 3-7 times a night (for 10 months...then I let that kid cry it out. At almost two, he's the best sleeper in our house now!)with a colicky infant or a three year old. You don't know unless you know was always my thought. I didn't sleep more than a couple hours at a time for a total of five hours a night if I was lucky for a year. But, you don't know what that feels like unless you've done it and you shouldn't be shamed for that.

As for the love thing, it is true but nothing will frustrate and annoy and anger you more than your own kids too. It's a trade off. I will say, I'm jealous of my friends with no children or even just one child at times. I work my ass off then come home and switch hats to mommy until I can put the rascals to bed and have some wine. I often wake up at 4:45 to hit the gym before work so my days are long and work is sometimes a reprieve. But you do what works. Kids, no kids, whatever. If we could just stop putting ourselves in these categories and just see one another as people, that would make life so much easier.

And both mine were "surprises". We were actively trying to not have kids with both. I wouldn't change it for anything now but husband def got the snip after #2.

Drumpet · 4/06/2017 12:18 am

youcaaango wrote:
This has nothing to do with kids or no kids. Maintaining friendships of any kind requires effort.

I totally agree. I haven't been on here for a while bc I updated phones and honestly pulled a Tay and forgot my password here. It's not that hard to keep up with friend that have kids. I recently not so recently had my "awakening" with a friend of mine. She was a hs friend that remained a close friend through college. I was in her wedding, drove hours for showers, etc. when she was pregnant I was our only friend that came to her baby shower other than cousins and aunts and close fam. After she had her baby I made multiple efforts to come see her, bring her dinner, babysit for her (she had lost a very young sister in law during her pregnancy which I also was the only friend that attended the funeral). Fast forward two years.... I have yet to lay eyes on the baby. Any attempt of getting together she's cancelled. We've run into each other at Mardi Gras events (she's even invited me and my bf to her parade and ball) and it's always like it was when we were great friends. It's come to the point where my feelings are hurt and I'm done trying. Even her "best friend" aka cousin, says "there's something else
Going on that she's not wanting to let you see or tell you". It's been so long that we've been "close" enough for me to say anything.

Lemondrop718 · 4/06/2017 1:35 am

SoftPretzels wrote:
Lemondrop718 wrote:
I get the sense that GWNJ thinks she's above Taylor & her radio show so she won't post about it unless she's gotten some kind of deal. I hope she doesn't become perminant. I didn't hear her call steph goya bean but that is really rude. For someone who's supposedly soo advanced, inclusive and one to stand up for people...she's really not good at what she claims. She's all for the girl at the bull statue (I think it's great) yet she'd say something like that. It's really a really offputting characteristic.

Taylor herself even admitted the Goya bean comment..

I think it was when steph was working there and her friend (who is also latina) interned at the same time. Taylor would call them both her "little Goya beans"

I must've not listened at the time, so I don't know the Goya bean context. I would be offended if someone called me that (half Puerto Rican) but yes, it's different from a friend. I've had some pretty questionable nicknames with my friends lol

SoftPretzels · 4/06/2017 1:15 pm

BabyAngel wrote:
SoftPretzels wrote:
as a parent I loathed hearing the other moms call in to say basically "Don't tell me you're tired. You don't know what tired is until you have a kid." It's the same condescending attitude I would see twin moms spout to singleton moms.... as if their cross is heavier.

We made the conscious (and some of us not) decision to have child(ren)..... why am I going to shame or take it out on a woman who is choosing different in her life?

I don't think I ever said that (but it's kind of true 😉). My kids didn't sleep through the night until they were two years old-- so two years without a night of uninterrupted sleep. But I got used to it. I learned how to deal with it.

Now, if I were Taylor's friend and I brought my two kids to her all white apartment, maybe she would rethink things and consider meeting at my place next time. I can't imagine she'd want kids there.

It's just when I hear any mom (with a single kid or multiples) it sounds like either a cry for help or a need to be worshipped in some capacity.....

I had to leave the twin mom groups I was in because people would screenshot their friends new mom posts and have something snarky/rude to caption like: "You think you're tired. Try having newborn twins. You got 3 hours of sleep last night? That sounds like such a vacation. try existing off of 1 hour of sleep for 6 months straight. But I guess this is why only some of us are strong enough to deal with 2 at a time."

And OMG do not get me started on moms with extreme opinions on

Crunchy
Feeding
Diapering
Circumcision
Natural labor
C-sections not being "real birth" etc.

God women are the worst offenders of judgement to other women sometimes......

micdrop · 4/06/2017 1:44 pm

I had to stop being in mom groups on facebook because of how nasty other moms could be. It is horrible. A hateful judgey comment from even a random person can send me into a spiral of self doubt. Being a parent is hard enough without all the hate.

chelchel · 4/07/2017 8:38 am

The first segment today had me completely cracking up! Haven't laughed that much at the show since Kenny left...

piopio12 · 4/07/2017 1:08 pm

I like it when people genuinely laugh, and that's what Taylor was doing. Like it's enjoyable to hear someone having fun as opposed to complaining. Also, death metal twinkle twinkle is hilar.

WineNot · 4/07/2017 3:22 pm

Today's show was the best!!! I had tears from laughing so hard. REMIX!

timetowakeup · 4/07/2017 3:41 pm

piopio12 wrote:
I like it when people genuinely laugh, and that's what Taylor was doing. Like it's enjoyable to hear someone having fun as opposed to complaining. Also, death metal twinkle twinkle is hilar.

hey guys; I can't wait to listen; I always thought tay's laugh is infectious. which hour was the first lady talk?

piopio12 · 4/07/2017 3:43 pm

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Feminist Hero · 4/08/2017 7:58 am

OMG twinkle twinkle had me cry laughing! So funny!

MommaShark · 4/10/2017 12:56 pm

I hope one of you super internet sleuths can figure out the famous person Carly Aquilino dated who went to prison. So intriquing. We know it was during her Girl Code years. He went to prison for a year (about a year and half including rehab and probation period). Any ideas?

bethosaf · 4/10/2017 1:10 pm

I literally just registered for this forum so I could discuss Carly's prison boyfriend. After some investigation, my guess is CHRIS BROWN. Taylor was freaking out about how big of a celebrity he is so we know it's someone very much in the public eye. Chris Brown gained a lot of weight in prison. He was also there for about a year (which is the amount of time Carly said he was in). And she said he went to prison after rehab, which lines up with Carly's story. Any other ideas? I can't find anything about them together as a couple but maybe it was on the DL

bhammertime2 · 4/10/2017 1:20 pm

AND Rihanna follows Carly on Instagram.

DestinationAwesometown · 4/10/2017 1:33 pm

She's dated SNL's Pete Davidson who was in rehab. Not sure if he went to jail. Also, I don't think he's that big of a celeb.

MommaShark · 4/10/2017 1:35 pm

https://soundcloud.com/guyswefucked/carly-aquilino

She talks about it on this podcast

MommaShark · 4/10/2017 1:40 pm

She says he's a musician on the SoundCloud podcast. He left court with his ex-girlfriend. Probably was Chris Brown.

WineNot · 4/10/2017 2:34 pm

This is great! I just finished listening to today's show on demand and was hoping someone had started this conversation. SO crazy if it was Chris Brown!!

micdrop · 4/10/2017 3:35 pm

omg i love you guys! i bet you're so right!!

mrmans23 · 4/10/2017 4:20 pm

I think Carly is by far the best co-host.I think she does a great job.

Wondering if anybody else picked up on this...Taylor and Carly were talking about being friends with your ex and about getting divorced. At one point during the segment, Taylor was talking about that she knew she was going to divorce Brett so she didn't want to get pregnant. Then, sort of under her breath, Taylor says, "that's why I took the morning after pill so many times." Taylor didn't laugh after saying this. Then they pretty much went to a commercial break. My first impression was that Taylor was not kidding around and trying to be funny.

Anybody else think that Taylor was being serious? And I am not bringing up this topic to discuss abortion or right to choose. Not going there at all. If it is true, its pretty crazy b/c it means that they weren't using any birth control and Brett was probably cool if Taylor got pregnant. Interesting!!

chelchel · 4/10/2017 4:27 pm

She's mentioned that quite a few times over the years. I think she even said it when they were still married. Don't know why she wouldn't just take birth control...

WineNot · 4/10/2017 4:28 pm

mrmans23 wrote:
I think Carly is by far the best co-host.I think she does a great job.

Wondering if anybody else picked up on this...Taylor and Carly were talking about being friends with your ex and about getting divorced. At one point during the segment, Taylor was talking about that she knew she was going to divorce Brett so she didn't want to get pregnant. Then, sort of under her breath, Taylor says, "that's why I took the morning after pill so many times." Taylor didn't laugh after saying this. Then they pretty much went to a commercial break. My first impression was that Taylor was not kidding around and trying to be funny.

Anybody else think that Taylor was being serious? And I am not bringing up this topic to discuss abortion or right to choose. Not going there at all. If it is true, its pretty crazy b/c it means that they weren't using any birth control and Brett was probably cool if Taylor got pregnant. Interesting!!

Love Carly! I definitely don't think Taylor was joking about it because I believe she has brought up the morning after pill in previous conversations. I just don't remember how long ago. I don't think she has ever mentioned whether or not she was on any form of birth control either. I wouldn't be surprised if she used both because she was so worried about getting pregnant.

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FKFriday · 4/10/2017 4:38 pm

mrmans23 wrote:
I think Carly is by far the best co-host.I think she does a great job.

Wondering if anybody else picked up on this...Taylor and Carly were talking about being friends with your ex and about getting divorced. At one point during the segment, Taylor was talking about that she knew she was going to divorce Brett so she didn't want to get pregnant. Then, sort of under her breath, Taylor says, "that's why I took the morning after pill so many times." Taylor didn't laugh after saying this. Then they pretty much went to a commercial break. My first impression was that Taylor was not kidding around and trying to be funny.

Anybody else think that Taylor was being serious? And I am not bringing up this topic to discuss abortion or right to choose. Not going there at all. If it is true, its pretty crazy b/c it means that they weren't using any birth control and Brett was probably cool if Taylor got pregnant. Interesting!!

She said many, many times she would go visit her parents so her Dad could get her the pill.

meepmeep · 4/10/2017 6:35 pm

My opinion -this is more about Taylor ultimately not wanting children than Brett. She has always hinted about not being ready/wanting kids from before they married. I hope TD has enough insight to know this about Taylor before settling down.

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MommaShark · 4/11/2017 12:30 am

Delete

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Getmommieouttathabox · 4/11/2017 3:31 am

An adult going all the way to ma to get plan b from their dad is absurd when you can get it at any Pharmacy without an rx.

Wakeupfan420 · 4/11/2017 7:52 am

Taylor: "I get social climber from her."
Pot, meet kettle. 😂😂😂