Zara81 wrote:

Women just struggle to get along with each other. Point blank. Sorry. I am a woman but it's true. Wives can't see the perspective of the family and vice versa. Think about it. As a mother or sister, you care so much about the son/brother and love them so much and are protective over them. Then a woman comes along, he gets married, and you're basically replaced and pushed aside. The wife expects holidays to be with her family, the wife argues with the family and expects you to blindly take her side, etc. Why can't wives see how hard of a transition this is for the mom and sisters? The wife is gaining a husband but the mom and sisters are in a way losing a relationship. I think it would be helpful to just have some empathy and understanding on both sides. I hate hearing about mother in laws and sister in laws fighting. Men don't do this.

 
Funny timing this came up, my aunt and I were discussing this on the weekend. She has three boys, and said she lucked out because most men gravitate towards the wife's family. One of her DILs doesn't really get along with her family, so spend holidays with us, one is gay and his boyfriends family is in another province so we get them for most things, the third definitly spends the majority of their time with her family though. Not something I've ever really considered before!

I can see in a situation where both were super close to their families, it would be hard to balance.

DestinationAwesometown wrote:

Tay just liked one of the e sister's insta pics. Hasn't she been proclaiming that she doesn't follow/like any of Brett or his family on social media? Lol. Whoopsies, girl. You must have double clicked on pic by mistake.

 
You're following one of them?!

piopio12 wrote:

I think Instagram showing you what people said/liked is super weird. My HSBFF liked some super sexual thing one day and it just creeped me out that I know she liked it. 😖

 
Same! A friend is super pregnant and feeling like crap and hubby was liking all these swimsuit women's photos last week. I can't imagine she would be very happy to see that.

I didn't know you could see what people liked on Instagram??

Zara81 wrote:

I didn't know you could see what people liked on Instagram??

 
I only just realized you could do this. Click on the heart and then at the top, click on Following.

Btw, it looks like Tay noticed. It's no longer showing her liking the E sister's pic

FKFriday wrote:

Feminist Hero wrote:

Btw, it looks like Tay noticed. It's no longer showing her liking the E sister's pic

 
Still there, unless there was another.

 
So weird. It's not showing on mine anymore.

FKFriday wrote:

The board comes to a standstill while everyone leaves to creep their friends and family 😂

 
Haha!!

Taylor used to say that when the E sisters were tearing her a new one, she wished Brett would recognize what was going on and stick up for Taylor.  But instead he kept telling Taylor to not let it bother her, or fail to see the conflict in the first place.  Having Brett not have her back, I'm sure created a lot of doubt in their relationship.  I was going through this same situation at the same time as Tay and I was seriously considering divorce.  We went to therapy but ended up taking Taylor's advice and my husband agreed to support me when his family was in attack mode and this has worked out well for the last 5 years.  We almost divorced over his family, granted they are still here and as awful as ever and I wish they weren't in my life, but my husband and I are solid.  
I think that if Brett was unwilling to support Tay, then their relationship was not going to work out. I think Brett was raised among this pack of wolves and probably never saw examples of support, or empathy, or respect in his family. 

Timetowakeup totally agree about Taylor's specific situation- I was mostly responding to the general idea that it's only the women and our inability to get along that causes the problems in in-law situations. In a nutshell, I think the problem is that men are typically not great communicators and once they get busy with their "new" family they don't always do the best job of picking up the phone to call mom/sisters (lol anyone watch Wahlburgers? Call your mutha!!) and for whatever reason the wife tends to get blamed. That's not to say the wife never has a part in it, but I think it's a combination/vicious cycle- the MIL/SIL start to blame the wife for the lack of communication, which makes fhe wife mad at them, and now maybe she does start to try and create distance, and it's just a downward spiral from there. Without the husband stepping in, it will never get resolved.

And yes, I'm very lucky to have a husband willing to accept responsibility and address the issues. We've still got some growing pains, but we'll be fine. 😊

Durst_Burp wrote:

Timetowakeup totally agree about Taylor's specific situation- I was mostly responding to the general idea that it's only the women and our inability to get along that causes the problems in in-law situations. In a nutshell, I think the problem is that men are typically not great communicators and once they get busy with their "new" family they don't always do the best job of picking up the phone to call mom/sisters (lol anyone watch Wahlburgers? Call your mutha!!) and for whatever reason the wife tends to get blamed. That's not to say the wife never has a part in it, but I think it's a combination/vicious cycle- the MIL/SIL start to blame the wife for the lack of communication, which makes fhe wife mad at them, and now maybe she does start to try and create distance, and it's just a downward spiral from there. Without the husband stepping in, it will never get resolved.

and I agree with you.  I know SIL drama and u r right, the boys tend to back down and leave it to the girlz to work out.

And yes, I'm very lucky to have a husband willing to accept responsibility and address the issues. We've still got some growing pains, but we'll be fine. 😊

I'm more concerned with grown men using emojis. That's odd.  But seriously those sister have some great genes. #ImJJ

Marie's Crisis wrote:

I was just randomly looking through IG and went under Brett's sister swimsuit account.
Are the emojis that Brett put under a picture of his sister butt a little odd or is it just me?
Taylor has remarked that him and one of the sister were sometimes a little too close
https://instagram.com/p/BPFuSQlD9If/

 
I haven't been on in a while, so I'm late to respond. I just looked at the photo though, yes I think those are weird emojis to put on your sisters photo...

I think Brett seems like a good guy. A little snobby but other than that he seemed like a pretty great husband. I don't really think the emojis are weird. Brett was raised with all sisters so that's probably why hes into social media and all that stuff. His family is going through a tough time. I think they kind of deserve a break.