Taylor Strecker Show & Kenny Zimlingshow Fans » Secrets

FKCSTMom · 3/13/2018 11:12 am

So...on yesterday’s show, Taylor told the story of ‘friends’ who were sisters and slept with the same guy and how she shared the secret with a family member and how she was then the bad guy. Of course all of the long-time listeners know this is the story of her sister-in-laws.

First...LET THE FUCK GO TAYLOR!!!!!!! If you are someone on Taylor’s team, she needs some serious counseling AND therapy. She is drinking too much and dwelling on all of the people who have wronged her. She constantly stresses out about how prettier her Taylor is and how she is not good enough to be with her. I honestly, honestly believes she loves TD, but if she doesn’t get help for her ‘issues’ I don’t know how that relationship can sustain itself.

Second... Do you think she was in the right (back then) by feeling the need to tell someone about this secret UNLESS that someone was Brett? I would have a hard time keeping any secret from my husband, but unless it was him and only him, I feel like it was none of her damn business and not her secret to share.

Third, have any of you been in similar situations? Not necessarily with sister-in-laws who have mistreated you..(cue the 🎻 violins) but with knowing a secret and either not telling and really wanting to or telling and getting the blame for it?

Here’s my story: I had a secret I’ve never shared with anyone except my sister. It involved something my dad’s best friend did to me when I was around 11 years old. I knew if I told my dad might do something horrible to him...like he might do something bad enough to put my dad in jail because my dad would be so mad. I kept this secret until my dad passed away. I could have shared this secret during all of the #metoo stuff but the other guy’s kids are on social media and would have known I was talking about their dad (who has since passed away as well). I figured it wouldn’t change anything and why hurt them...or what if they didn’t believe me after all of these years? So I’ll just take it to my grave...

Your turn (if you choose)!

lydia delainey · 3/13/2018 11:17 am

I agree, I am so over these same bitter stories, and in my mind the person that she told was definitely Brett. She said that it was another family member that hadn't heard the story, and it sounded like she was in the room when the phone call was made.

lydia delainey · 3/13/2018 11:20 am

In my experience FKCST it can be healing to share those stories. I hate the idea that the perpetrator is protected. I know that he is deceased, but it might be cathartic for you to share. Just my opinion, and my experience, of course.

HeatherW · 3/13/2018 11:35 am

In Taylor's case, it was none of her business and there was no need to tell anyone at all, even Brett. If the first sister had an issue with her sister dating someone she hooked up with, she could have said something on her own. Aside from that, it's always been a boring story that doesn't really need to be repeated, And if this is the only example she has of this kind of thing, it's not really a topic she needs to keep discussing.

Other secrets, I don't know. I guess it would depend on the secret.

Durst_Burp · 3/13/2018 12:01 pm

I don't have any huge secrets of my own that come to mind right now, but I do often tell my husband secrets that I have been told. There are exceptions and some things I haven't passed on to him, and its not that I tell him just for the sake of it, but if its something I think he'd find amusing I will. He's the golf pro at a club, and there is plenty of scandy as you can imagine. He'll tell me about it and then say "I can't tell you who it is" - I get so mad and demand that he tell me. Who am I going to tell anyway? I'm only around his members a handful of times every year for a few events here and there. I'm usually bored to death and knowing their dirty secrets at least makes it somewhat entertaining.

There have been some good ones. At his old club, someone turned in a digital camera that was left in one of the golf carts. My husband and his boss turned it on so they could try and figure out who it belonged to, and boy did they find out! A couple of members were taking the golf cart off into the woods, having sexy time and photographing themselves. More recently, a married woman member got caught having an affair. Someone who lives along the golf course called the shop to tell them a random car was parked on the street and they saw the guy walk on to the golf course. The shop sent an employee out to investigate and they found the woman, who was supposed to be playing golf, in the woods getting busy with this random dude.

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FKFriday · 3/13/2018 12:17 pm

Wow!!!

I don’t have any good ones I don’t think? My cousin did get in trouble for having a knife (can’t remeber the whole store, he was a late teen at a park and there was a fight) and my Dad told him after my uncle called needing a friend who’s a cops number. Pretty sure besides the 4 of us, no one else in the family knows.

My Mom & Aunt are both in the equestrian world and there is a lot of crazy scandal, but most bores me so I don’t pay any attention.

Longtimelistener · 3/13/2018 1:25 pm

I inadvertently told about a close friend’s pregnancy before they had the opportunity to share it with everyone. It was shared with some girlfriend’s because I couldn’t believe that this couple got pregnant on their honeymoon a mere days before the woman was supposed to start working for the first time in her life. The entire situation was messed up but I told another friend who in turn told her husband who then spilled it to everyone. I didn’t realize it was my blunder that got the word spread but it was. And I felt so awful and nothing could take back what I did. We’ve gotten past it at this point (7 years later) but I’ll always feel so badly that I shared a secret that wasn’t meant to be shared. I’m also terrible with secrets so they now know just not to tell me things like that.

secco · 3/13/2018 1:44 pm

Gaah, I'm actually in the middle of one of these situations right now.

I have a friend ("Betty") who is mad at another friend ("Sally") because she thinks that Sally called her an alcoholic during a conversation to another friend. Betty has been drinking quite a lot over the past year (at least 6 nights a week, if not 7) and hanging out with kind of a sketchy crowd, and Sally and I had expressed concern to each other for quite some time. We've had some pretty candid conversations about the situation with Betty and while we both agree that Betty's crush/hookup/boyfriend definitely has a drinking problem (he drinks 6-7 nights per week as well and probably dabbles in some drugs), the word "alcoholic" has never been used when referring to Betty--though she's certainly headed in an iffy direction.

Betty was constantly telling me how she was mad at Sally (but had no intention to confront her about it), and one day Sally and I were having a discussion about Betty and what to do (do we intervene, etc.), and I asked Sally what the deal was--I heard she called Betty an alcoholic, wtf? Sally says that she did not, but rather had just made a comment about how much Betty and Bob go out drinking.

Betty found out that Sally found out that Betty was mad at her and that I was the one who told her. So now Betty's mad at me for telling Sally that she is mad at her for calling her an alcoholic. I realize that I maybe didn't NEED to bring it up with Sally, but when Betty asked me about it I was honest and told her yes, it came up organically in conversation because I thought it was strange that Sally would have said that about her. Also, I was stuck in the middle hearing them both bitch about each other and had had enough--I wanted to know what really happened. 🙄

Unfortunately I've tried to get Betty out and about to do other non-binge-drinking things so many times to no avail that I don't even care what she does anymore. It's just so frustrating to be the "bad guy" for (what I feel is) no reason. 🤷‍♀️

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youcaaango · 3/14/2018 10:22 am

Okay, maybe you all can help me with this sticky situation since I can't ask family.

A few months ago, a relative confessed during a girls-weekend that her brother-in-law (who is very icky and nobody ever has liked) has been doing low-level creepy stuff to her for years. Making lewd comments, cornering her, putting his hand on her butt whenever he won't get caught, that kind of stuff. She's never said anything because she knows that he would cause her to lose contact with her sister. She was very upset and crying and the rest of us were upset and angry for her and the situation.

Fast-forward to now. His company is throwing this guy a retirement party and the whole family is invited. I'm the ONLY one from that girls group that will not be attending! They're all going to travel there (including the sister-in-law in question), listen to what a great guy he is and continue on as always. Huh? They roll their eyes at me for not "letting it go".

Am I off-base here? I really can't bring myself to go but how can they?

Durst_Burp · 3/14/2018 10:57 am

youcaaango wrote:
Okay, maybe you all can help me with this sticky situation since I can't ask family.

A few months ago, a relative confessed during a girls-weekend that her brother-in-law (who is very icky and nobody ever has liked) has been doing low-level creepy stuff to her for years. Making lewd comments, cornering her, putting his hand on her butt whenever he won't get caught, that kind of stuff. She's never said anything because she knows that he would cause her to lose contact with her sister. She was very upset and crying and the rest of us were upset and angry for her and the situation.

Fast-forward to now. His company is throwing this guy a retirement party and the whole family is invited. I'm the ONLY one from that girls group that will not be attending! They're all going to travel there (including the sister-in-law in question), listen to what a great guy he is and continue on as always. Huh? They roll their eyes at me for not "letting it go".

Am I off-base here? I really can't bring myself to go but how can they?

I'll preface this by saying I totally get where you're coming from, and I've boycotted family events/distanced myself from family members over less so I'd probably do the same.

I'm assuming that after the girls' trip, nothing further was said/done about the situation either by SIL herself or the others. It was clearly very hard for SIL to tell anyone about it and probably still wants to keep it quiet for fear of a huge family blow up. If the whole group of you doesn't go to this event without explanation, it will probably force the issue to light and she may not want that. As hard as it is to accept and it feels so wrong that he will just "get away with it", ultimately its her decision whether she wants to out him and accept the repercussions from doing so. Its a really shitty situation, I've been involved in something similar and had to distance myself from everyone involved.

What if you and a couple of the other women who were on the trip confronted the BIL privately and told him if he didn't knock it off you would out him? Its not a perfect solution, but maybe better than nothing?

ThatWholeBrevityThang · 3/14/2018 12:03 pm

HeatherW wrote:
In Taylor's case, it was none of her business and there was no need to tell anyone at all, even Brett. If the first sister had an issue with her sister dating someone she hooked up with, she could have said something on her own. Aside from that, it's always been a boring story that doesn't really need to be repeated, And if this is the only example she has of this kind of thing, it's not really a topic she needs to keep discussing.

Other secrets, I don't know. I guess it would depend on the secret.

I agree. Why would any brother want to know about who their sisters have had sex with? I think its bizarre that she felt it was necessary to tell him. My brother sure as hell would not want to hear about who Ive slept with. Weird all around.

youcaaango · 3/14/2018 2:23 pm

WhereIsVictoria wrote:
Durst is right... sometimes people aren't in a place to talk to the aggressor. But I don't think you should confront him for her. He might destroy her relationship with her sister preemptively when he finds out other people know. Best to just stay close to her... pimple on her ass close... and don't give him the opportunity to be a creep. She needs to learn to stand up for herself but she won't until she's ready.

Thanks, gals. I have no intention of confronting him, per her request, but he is not welcome in my home. I'm mostly disappointed at the other women for being such weenies. I can't stand injustice and sometimes feel really alone when I try to make a stand but, like always, I'll move on. Too much hate listening to Dr. Laura all these years, I suppose!

The hardest part is they'll all be together partying it up while my righteous and bitchy self will be home with my own protest of one! Argh.

I appreciate the feedback - I'm mostly just venting! Love ya all.

Durst_Burp · 3/14/2018 2:46 pm

youcaaango wrote:
WhereIsVictoria wrote:
Durst is right... sometimes people aren't in a place to talk to the aggressor. But I don't think you should confront him for her. He might destroy her relationship with her sister preemptively when he finds out other people know. Best to just stay close to her... pimple on her ass close... and don't give him the opportunity to be a creep. She needs to learn to stand up for herself but she won't until she's ready.
Thanks, gals. I have no intention of confronting him, per her request, but he is not welcome in my home. I'm mostly disappointed at the other women for being such weenies. I can't stand injustice and sometimes feel really alone when I try to make a stand but, like always, I'll move on. Too much hate listening to Dr. Laura all these years, I suppose!

The hardest part is they'll all be together partying it up while my righteous and bitchy self will be home with my own protest of one! Argh.

I appreciate the feedback - I'm mostly just venting! Love ya all.

I don't get people sometimes. One of the members at the club where my husband works cheated on his wife (w/2 young kids) with a girl half his age. They got divorced, she moved away but he stayed in the same house and all of the social circle in that neighborhood/at the club that they used to hang out with as a couple STILL hangs out with him and his new child bride. I don't know how those women can justify hanging out with the new wife - they are/were friends with his ex!

FKCSTMom · 3/14/2018 3:20 pm

WhereIsVictoria wrote:
Durst is right... sometimes people aren't in a place to talk to the aggressor. But I don't think you should confront him for her. He might destroy her relationship with her sister preemptively when he finds out other people know. Best to just stay close to her... pimple on her ass close... and don't give him the opportunity to be a creep. She needs to learn to stand up for herself but she won't until she's ready.

I LIKE this... stick so close to her that he cannot get her alone. Annoy the crap out of him... just take turns making sure one of you is with HER and one (or more actually) is with him. MF’er. I hate men like that.

Zenith_Kemlinghaus · 3/15/2018 3:51 pm

Speaking of secrets....looks like the E family and the D family have more in common than we thought.

Hawr-rible · 3/15/2018 3:53 pm

Zenith_Kemlinghaus wrote:
Speaking of secrets....looks like the E family and the D family have more in common than we thought.

What do you mean? I must have missed something!

FKCSTMom · 3/15/2018 5:19 pm

Zenith_Kemlinghaus wrote:
Speaking of secrets....looks like the E family and the D family have more in common than we thought.

TELL US!!!! Please????

PrincessPoppy · 3/15/2018 5:33 pm

FKCSTMom wrote:
Zenith_Kemlinghaus wrote:
Speaking of secrets....looks like the E family and the D family have more in common than we thought.

TELL US!!!! Please????

Isn’t he a dr or something? TD posted a pic today.

Wakeupfan420 · 3/16/2018 8:31 am

PrincessPoppy wrote:
FKCSTMom wrote:
Zenith_Kemlinghaus wrote:
Speaking of secrets....looks like the E family and the D family have more in common than we thought.

TELL US!!!! Please????

Isn’t he a dr or something? TD posted a pic today.

Caption says DPM, must be a podiatrist..

FKFriday · 3/16/2018 9:49 am

Oh wow, I had no clue her Dad was. Dr! I wonder why they needed the GoGundMe, I would assume Drs have great medical coverage?

Durst_Burp · 3/16/2018 9:59 am

FKFriday wrote:
Oh wow, I had no clue her Dad was. Dr! I wonder why they needed the GoGundMe, I would assume Drs have great medical coverage?

I didn't know that either! Lol as much as Taylor likes to talk about her dad being a Dr, I'm surprised its never come up. But the OP said the D family has something in common with the E family, not the Streckers, and I don't think anyone in the E family was a Dr?

FKFriday · 3/16/2018 10:02 am

I’m so confused!!!!!

kbk88 · 3/16/2018 10:18 am

Hmm...my first thought was the dads might have something in common but googling doesn't reveal any secrets about TD's dad and time "away." Sisters sleeping with the same guy?

BethosGirlSC · 3/16/2018 11:10 am

Hmmm...does it have to do with TD's dad being a doctor? The Es aren't docs are they? They run a family business right? Is Brett's dad the owner?

kbk88 · 3/16/2018 11:35 am

The first person who posted never said anything about her dad being a doctor, I don't know if that has anything to do with it. And yeah, family business though I'm not sure the status of that now.

BethosGirlSC · 3/16/2018 12:04 pm

kbk88 wrote:
The first person who posted never said anything about her dad being a doctor, I don't know if that has anything to do with it. And yeah, family business though I'm not sure the status of that now.

No someone else mentioned about him being a doctor. Didn't remember if any of the Es were...trying to make a connection.

PrincessPoppy · 3/16/2018 1:47 pm

kbk88 wrote:
The first person who posted never said anything about her dad being a doctor, I don't know if that has anything to do with it. And yeah, family business though I'm not sure the status of that now.

Ohhh TDs Dad has a family business? That would be crazy if both the Donohues and the Streckers has medical practices where the mom runs the office/business side! They really would be meant to be!

kbk88 · 3/17/2018 1:27 pm

PrincessPoppy wrote:
kbk88 wrote:
The first person who posted never said anything about her dad being a doctor, I don't know if that has anything to do with it. And yeah, family business though I'm not sure the status of that now.

Ohhh TDs Dad has a family business? That would be crazy if both the Donohues and the Streckers has medical practices where the mom runs the office/business side! They really would be meant to be!

No idea bout TD's family. I was answering the person above who mentioned the Epstein's family business.

Zenith_Kemlinghaus · 3/18/2018 7:04 pm

Lol not a troll...but here’s another clue. Dr D’s first name is Cornelius. Try again and see what you find - might need to dig a little.

Goldclutch · 3/19/2018 5:06 am

I personally have zero interest in researching clues about this guy, but I'm SHOCKED Taylor hasn't mentioned he's a doctor every 3 seconds. Has she?