Durst_Burp wrote:

Hawr-rible wrote:

Got a doozy of a story for all of you this morning along the "secrets" line.....to preface this you should know I have 4 much older siblings that have a different father, and then there is me, with a different dad and am technically their half sister. My brother gets a message today from someone on my sibling's side of the family (not my relatives) saying they have a half sister they didn't know about trying to contact them- found out she is related to them from Ancestry.com. My sister freaks out and looks her up on FB to find she has listed her birthday as March 23. That's my birthday- my siblings DO have a half sibling born on March 23rd...and it's me. I'm immediately suspicious, and think that they are getting catfished somehow, that this chick pretending to be me to my sibling's family for some reason. She claims that her father was my sibling's father and only just found out. I'm not buying a word of it because that's too coincidental- like, another half sibling would have my birthday? I don't think so. I tell my family not to trust this- she HAS to be posing as me somehow (even though the birth year and names don't match- I just figured she didn't get enough info to catfish properly). Turns out, it's true. She IS in fact a sibling born to their father that he never told anyone about, and it truly is coincidental that she shares my birthday. Two half siblings, same birthday. And I accused her of being a scam artist, lmao. Crazy, crazy, crazy. Oh, and she and her husband married on the same day as my brother and his wife- March 10th. Not the same year, but still another insane coincidence...... 

Wowzers! That's wild. And your half-siblings' father sounds like he was a busy guy back in the day! Has your brother told the rest of the family about this?
 

Oh yeah, he was an asshole- an abusive alcoholic who had multiple affairs. As my brother said this morning, she might not be the only sibling floating around out there.....  Yeah, my sibling have been letting their kids know today, and it's slowly spreading through the fam. She seems like a really nice woman- I had to apologize for calling her a catfisher, lol- she just laughed and said she understood. 
 

FKFriday wrote:

Holy crap!!!!! You need to keep us updated on this!!!

So far, as far as updates, my siblings have been chatting with her on a FB message feed all morning- she must be legit, everything checks out. She is from the same town in Oklahoma that my sibling's dad is from and he used to spend a lot of time down there with his family. Her mom worked at a bar that he used to frequent (my brother remembered it) and that's how he met her mom, who worked there. Saw a picture of her- she looks a LOT like one of my sisters, which is crazy to see. She was born when my mom was still married to my sibling's dad, so she feels really bad about that, but my sister told her not to worry; on the grand list of this man's sins, her birth isn't anywhere near the top of the worst. So, yeah, they are all just getting to know her a bit and making plans to meet in person. She even wants to meet me, the Suspicious Sally Other Half Sister, so she must not have hard feelings about me accusing her of being a charlatan, lmao! 
 

Hawr-rible wrote:

FKFriday wrote:

Holy crap!!!!! You need to keep us updated on this!!!

So far, as far as updates, my siblings have been chatting with her on a FB message feed all morning- she must be legit, everything checks out. She is from the same town in Oklahoma that my sibling's dad is from and he used to spend a lot of time down there with his family. Her mom worked at a bar that he used to frequent (my brother remembered it) and that's how he met her mom, who worked there. Saw a picture of her- she looks a LOT like one of my sisters, which is crazy to see. She was born when my mom was still married to my sibling's dad, so she feels really bad about that, but my sister told her not to worry; on the grand list of this man's sins, her birth isn't anywhere near the top of the worst. So, yeah, they are all just getting to know her a bit and making plans to meet in person. She even wants to meet me, the Suspicious Sally Other Half Sister, so she must not have hard feelings about me accusing her of being a charlatan, lmao! 
 

I wondered how your mom felt about it all and the timing of her birth - if it was an affair or after they're relationship was over! 

Hawr-rible wrote:

Got a doozy of a story for all of you this morning along the "secrets" line.....to preface this you should know I have 4 much older siblings that have a different father, and then there is me, with a different dad and am technically their half sister. My brother gets a message today from someone on my sibling's side of the family (not my relatives) saying they have a half sister they didn't know about trying to contact them- found out she is related to them from Ancestry.com. My sister freaks out and looks her up on FB to find she has listed her birthday as March 23. That's my birthday- my siblings DO have a half sibling born on March 23rd...and it's me. I'm immediately suspicious, and think that they are getting catfished somehow, that this chick pretending to be me to my sibling's family for some reason. She claims that her father was my sibling's father and only just found out. I'm not buying a word of it because that's too coincidental- like, another half sibling would have my birthday? I don't think so. I tell my family not to trust this- she HAS to be posing as me somehow (even though the birth year and names don't match- I just figured she didn't get enough info to catfish properly). Turns out, it's true. She IS in fact a sibling born to their father that he never told anyone about, and it truly is coincidental that she shares my birthday. Two half siblings, same birthday. And I accused her of being a scam artist, lmao. Crazy, crazy, crazy. Oh, and she and her husband married on the same day as my brother and his wife- March 10th. Not the same year, but still another insane coincidence...... 

I was POSITIVE you were going to say she was your TWIN SISTER!!! Haha...reading for details isn't my strong suit!! LOL

On_Point wrote:

Hawr-rible wrote:

FKFriday wrote:

Holy crap!!!!! You need to keep us updated on this!!!

So far, as far as updates, my siblings have been chatting with her on a FB message feed all morning- she must be legit, everything checks out. She is from the same town in Oklahoma that my sibling's dad is from and he used to spend a lot of time down there with his family. Her mom worked at a bar that he used to frequent (my brother remembered it) and that's how he met her mom, who worked there. Saw a picture of her- she looks a LOT like one of my sisters, which is crazy to see. She was born when my mom was still married to my sibling's dad, so she feels really bad about that, but my sister told her not to worry; on the grand list of this man's sins, her birth isn't anywhere near the top of the worst. So, yeah, they are all just getting to know her a bit and making plans to meet in person. She even wants to meet me, the Suspicious Sally Other Half Sister, so she must not have hard feelings about me accusing her of being a charlatan, lmao! 
 

I wondered how your mom felt about it all and the timing of her birth - if it was an affair or after they're relationship was over! 

Mom didn't know, but suspected he had other kids- just because he was so careless and a huge cheat. This girl was born toward the end of the marriage, so Mom was already on her way out anyway. I'm kind of glad my mom is not alive to find all of this out, though- I don't know how she would have taken this news. Suspecting is one thing, but actually knowing is a whole other ballgame....
 

FKCSTMom wrote:

Hawr-rible wrote:

Got a doozy of a story for all of you this morning along the "secrets" line.....to preface this you should know I have 4 much older siblings that have a different father, and then there is me, with a different dad and am technically their half sister. My brother gets a message today from someone on my sibling's side of the family (not my relatives) saying they have a half sister they didn't know about trying to contact them- found out she is related to them from Ancestry.com. My sister freaks out and looks her up on FB to find she has listed her birthday as March 23. That's my birthday- my siblings DO have a half sibling born on March 23rd...and it's me. I'm immediately suspicious, and think that they are getting catfished somehow, that this chick pretending to be me to my sibling's family for some reason. She claims that her father was my sibling's father and only just found out. I'm not buying a word of it because that's too coincidental- like, another half sibling would have my birthday? I don't think so. I tell my family not to trust this- she HAS to be posing as me somehow (even though the birth year and names don't match- I just figured she didn't get enough info to catfish properly). Turns out, it's true. She IS in fact a sibling born to their father that he never told anyone about, and it truly is coincidental that she shares my birthday. Two half siblings, same birthday. And I accused her of being a scam artist, lmao. Crazy, crazy, crazy. Oh, and she and her husband married on the same day as my brother and his wife- March 10th. Not the same year, but still another insane coincidence...... 

I was POSITIVE you were going to say she was your TWIN SISTER!!! Haha...reading for details isn't my strong suit!! LOL

OMG, that's so funny! I can see how you were thinking that, though! 
 

piopio12 wrote:

Is your father dead?! Did this girls mom ever marry? Did she have a “dad”

My father is alive, but the father in question is my brother and sister's dad, and yes, he is dead (good riddance!). He died in 2015. This girl grew up with no father, which would be sad, but she kind of dodged a bullet not having to know him. He made my sibling's lives hell as kids.....
 

DaisyDeadPetals wrote:

Hawr-rible wrote:

Got a doozy of a story for all of you this morning along the "secrets" line.....to preface this you should know I have 4 much older siblings that have a different father, and then there is me, with a different dad and am technically their half sister. My brother gets a message today from someone on my sibling's side of the family (not my relatives) saying they have a half sister they didn't know about trying to contact them- found out she is related to them from Ancestry.com. My sister freaks out and looks her up on FB to find she has listed her birthday as March 23. That's my birthday- my siblings DO have a half sibling born on March 23rd...and it's me. I'm immediately suspicious, and think that they are getting catfished somehow, that this chick pretending to be me to my sibling's family for some reason. She claims that her father was my sibling's father and only just found out. I'm not buying a word of it because that's too coincidental- like, another half sibling would have my birthday? I don't think so. I tell my family not to trust this- she HAS to be posing as me somehow (even though the birth year and names don't match- I just figured she didn't get enough info to catfish properly). Turns out, it's true. She IS in fact a sibling born to their father that he never told anyone about, and it truly is coincidental that she shares my birthday. Two half siblings, same birthday. And I accused her of being a scam artist, lmao. Crazy, crazy, crazy. Oh, and she and her husband married on the same day as my brother and his wife- March 10th. Not the same year, but still another insane coincidence...... 

OMG this is why I won't do a DNA test a la Ancestry.com. My bio-father was not around and my bio-mom was an addict, so I was adopted by relatives who became my parents. They had their own kids, who are biologically my cousins, but to us, we're all brothers and sisters. In my 20's, my bio-dad showed up at my family's restaurant and asked to connect with me, because his kids wanted to meet me. I was intrigued so I want to dinner with them. That's when he drops the bomb on me that he got someone pregnant at the same time as my bio-mom and this other lady had a son at about the same time as me and even lived near where I grew up. I no longer have contact with my bio-dad or his kids and I really don't want any weird DNA connections to show up if I were to ever do one of the tests.  Lord only knows how many DNA-relatives I have out there on these sites. My bio-dad and his wife had 4 kids, plus however many other offspring he has that he may or may not know about. Not to mention uncles/aunts/cousins he has that I don't want or care to know. 
 

I totally get that- sometimes finding this stuff out opens up huge cans of worms that are sometimes best left alone, for sure. There is this weird expectation that you should want to know and be close will all possible family, but I don't subscribe to that. My dad and I don't speak (loooooong story) and I'm perfectly fine with that. He may be my father, but he was never my "dad" if that makes sense; we don't get along, we see eye to eye on nothing, and my life is less complicated and calm without his negative influence. I don't keep in touch with a great number of his family members either, for the same reason. Lots of them have this "you ungrateful bitch" thing towards me since I don't communicate with my father, and I just avoid contact with them too, because it's none of their damned business why I do not want a relationship with him. 
 

Hawr-rible......how are things going with the new family?

Awwwwww.......that's so amazing to hear!!! Glad its gone so well

NotAnExSIL wrote:

I'm glad to hear some positive stories that come from DNA testing/ancestry, etc.

My in-laws did the DNA testing and signed up for ancestry.com. About 3 months ago, my mother in law was out front snowblowing the driveway or something, and this car pulled up and this woman started asking her questions about her maternal side of the family...had names of grandparents, aunts, etc...claiming she was a cousin. Then she started talking about how she drove from Illinois and had nowhere to stay and was living in her car. It really creeped my mother in law out, and she pretended to have no clue about it and was trying to tell her she had the wrong person and house. The lady finally left but she kept seeing the car driving around the block another few days after. Their one neighbour is a cop, and he finally stopped the car the one day. The car was registered as stolen in IL, and she had been apparently charged in the past for fraud and robbery. Crazy shit. Apparently the woman was stalking people through DNA/ancestry sites.

Wow that's crazy!
 

I have a story about finding long lost family members. (Not that it matters, but I’m not using real names.)
 
My dad got a call one day from a casual acquaintance, Holly. She asked if she had an Aunt Barb. He said yes and asked how she knew and why she was asking. She said that her and her sister were both adopted and their adoptive mom had passed away so they were now looking for their real families (the two sisters were not biological). Holly told my dad that she thinks his Aunt Barb is her sister’s real mother. So my dad made some phone calls to extended family members (both his parents have passed away. And side note – he was also adopted, ironically). He called his dad’s cousin Bill to see if he would know anything. Bill is so sweet and a very thoughtful old farmer, so I can just imagine this conversation. Bill thought a while and said “you know… back in the late 50’s Barb got really sick. She stayed inside her parent’s house for a little under a year and if anyone ever saw her she was wearing really baggy clothes to hide the tumor she had on her stomach.” Welp. After some more conversations and putting Holly’s sister Pam and Aunt Barb in touch, it was announced that indeed Barb’s tumor was baby Pam!! It was rocky at first but now Barb and Pam are in communication and she is included in family gathers. My dad is very ornery and calls her The Tumor. Apparently Barb got pregnant when she was 16, gave up the baby, but still went on to marry the baby’s dad and had three more children before divorcing. So all the kids are full siblings and are all very accepting. The other crazy part about it all is that they ended up living not far from each other, in neighboring towns, despite being given up for adoption on the other side of the state. My dad actually went to high school with her (a few years apart).

NotAnExSIL wrote:

I'm glad to hear some positive stories that come from DNA testing/ancestry, etc.

My in-laws did the DNA testing and signed up for ancestry.com. About 3 months ago, my mother in law was out front snowblowing the driveway or something, and this car pulled up and this woman started asking her questions about her maternal side of the family...had names of grandparents, aunts, etc...claiming she was a cousin. Then she started talking about how she drove from Illinois and had nowhere to stay and was living in her car. It really creeped my mother in law out, and she pretended to have no clue about it and was trying to tell her she had the wrong person and house. The lady finally left but she kept seeing the car driving around the block another few days after. Their one neighbour is a cop, and he finally stopped the car the one day. The car was registered as stolen in IL, and she had been apparently charged in the past for fraud and robbery. Crazy shit. Apparently the woman was stalking people through DNA/ancestry sites.

Holy shit, that is scary! I take it she isn't really related to your mother-in-law, right? This is a con she runs on people?
 

My sister is adopted from a different country. We went back to visit and there was someone my mother had known for years who said he would put out feelers to see if we could find my aistee’s bio mom. This one woman claimed she knew her. She essentially led us through a wild goose chase in literal slums of a 3rd World Country and nothing. We came back home and she still was reaching out saying there was more...she had more info etc. In all honesty I think the woman was crazy. My sister’s bio mom is most likely long dead. But this nut job wasn’t looking for money really (or maybe she was but it wasn’t a lot), she just was a pathological liar. However it crushed my sister because she was given this false hope. She has absolutely no biological ties on earth and I think that’s hard on her.

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FKFriday wrote:

Awww.....that’s amazing! And I love your Dad lol

Did the other woman find her family? That would be so hard if not 😕

She found out that both her parents had passed away. I am not sure about siblings. So hard I would think! 

My dad and aunt were also both adopted and my dad has zero interest in searching for his bio family, even though both his adoptive parents are gone. He said my parents are my parents, and that's that. My aunt on the other hand is trying to find her bio parents. She got as far as a lawyer representing the agency, and I guess the mother said to never give away her identity. But. She lawyer had left a paper on the table with the mother's information and my aunt was able to see a last name. that's all she has after 9 years of searching.