FKFriday wrote:

How long is it going to be?

We will go as long as we have something to talk bout lol

Get on and listen trollies!

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Great job Cindy! The sound was great!

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EP8 is up now iTunes also if where ever you listen to podcasts
It’s our Easter chat I have a new MBB and I tied to play  troll roulette but couldn’t find a troll to help me because I’m so upset that I’ve been kicked out of our alley shopping groups !!
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Omg I can’t wait to listen!!!!!

Now I have to change the EP name😂😂😂

cincella wrote:

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New EP is up on all platforms!
The death by Ford Edge one

As usual it was hilarious!
 

cincella wrote:

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/couple-of-instigators/id1356941615?mt=2&i=1000413456774

New ep out the usual bullshit!
We talk about this couple who is raising a gender Neutral for the gap child 🤷‍♂️ It’s crazy to me and I would love to here others opinion on this subject. The instagram page is called raising zoomer Coyote 😳
It’s insane and attention seeking IMO!

Well, I gotta hear the EP before I can completely form an opinion- but I will say I don't get this trend at all. If you have a child who has a penis and is like "Yeah, I'm a boy- I feel like a boy" then leave it alone. You have a masculine child- whoop id dee doo. No reason to make gender an issue; you don't have to douse him in sports and action figures, but it's ok for him to know he's a boy. Now IF your child has a penis and feels like he should not- then it's time to take a look at gender and see what the child's options are from there. Childhood is confusing enough- don't introduce doubt on gender if there already isn't  doubt coming from your child, that's my point. 

FKCSTMom wrote:

Hawr-rible wrote:

cincella wrote:

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/couple-of-instigators/id1356941615?mt=2&i=1000413456774

New ep out the usual bullshit!
We talk about this couple who is raising a gender Neutral for the gap child 🤷‍♂️ It’s crazy to me and I would love to here others opinion on this subject. The instagram page is called raising zoomer Coyote 😳
It’s insane and attention seeking IMO!

Well, I gotta hear the EP before I can completely form an opinion- but I will say I don't get this trend at all. If you have a child who has a penis and is like "Yeah, I'm a boy- I feel like a boy" then leave it alone. You have a masculine child- whoop id dee doo. No reason to make gender an issue; you don't have to douse him in sports and action figures, but it's ok for him to know he's a boy. Now IF your child has a penis and feels like he should not- then it's time to take a look at gender and see what the child's options are from there. Childhood is confusing enough- don't introduce doubt on gender if there already isn't  doubt coming from your child, that's my point. 

 
I have a ‘friend’ who now has a daughter who is 4 or 5. The daughter was born a son but ‘she’ decided that she no longer wanted to be a boy about a year and a half ago. She wanted to wear dresses and do the girl stuff, so they (mom and dad) have dressed her in all girl stuff, grown out her hair, and have started calling her a completely different name. I am guessing at some point they will give her the option to have gender reassignment...that remains to be seen. But for now, she started out as a little boy for 4 years and then one day (at least on FB anyway), mom said, “Please start calling her _____” and from then on, she was that name. Full on, child’s decision (according to mom).

I want everyone to be able to be who they want to be, but at 4 does she really know? 

My cousin (who is like a sister) has a little boy who is now 8. He has always loved dressing in his sister's clothes and being girly in general. he loves to play in makeup and is in dance classes and is the star of the show. Always. he is fabulous. We all guess he is going to come out as gay, but never push the subject or force him to talk about it. Just let him be him and he is so happy. If he's straight, great. If he's gay, great. But I don't think he really knows at this point and that's totally normal. I'm sure sexuality and genders are different beasts, but just don't know if I am ok with making the decision at such a young age. 

I have an aunt and uncle who bought a book called "raising your child God's way" which involved very little discipline. They literally would put him in a dark basement for time outs, when he got them (rarely) and let him cuss. he was kicked out of elementary multiple times for bad language and biting. When he was 10 or so, he would not shut up during a Christmas prayer my great aunt, who was a nun, always did before Christmas dinner and she literally lunged over the table to choke him! it was insane. Cut to now, he is 24, living at home, smoking insane amounts of pot, and is the janitor at his old high school. that manual really worked out for them. 

FKFriday wrote:

My sister is doing this no-no parenting, you occupy them with something else, not say no. Nephew is a nightmare, he failed kindergarten, and most parents don’t let him over for a second play date. I’ve stopped inviting her to a lot of stuff,cause the kid is just a nightmare. Only with her around though, he’s good as gold when she’s away. We all went tubing in the winter, and everyone came back to my house for spaghetti. He didn’t want that, so she went and got him McDonald’s, then all the other kids are pissy cause their parents are making them eat spaghetti while he gets something else 🙄

I know parenting is hard (and i'm just getting started!) but is it really that hard? Common sense goes a long way, right? I would have been soooo pissed if I was a parent to other children who didn't get the mcdonalds. but what do you do?

FKFriday wrote:

My sister is doing this no-no parenting, you occupy them with something else, not say no. Nephew is a nightmare, he failed kindergarten, and most parents don’t let him over for a second play date. I’ve stopped inviting her to a lot of stuff,cause the kid is just a nightmare. Only with her around though, he’s good as gold when she’s away. We all went tubing in the winter, and everyone came back to my house for spaghetti. He didn’t want that, so she went and got him McDonald’s, then all the other kids are pissy cause their parents are making them eat spaghetti while he gets something else 🙄

OMG, I can relate to this- when my daughter was in preschool she had a friend from school over for a playdate. The girl seemed perfectly nice at school, but when she came to our house she was the queen of all brats- and I figured out why. At school she wasn't allowed to get away with shit, but outside of school her mother subscribed to the whole "redirect" bullshit. She actually told me that telling her daughter no "doesn't work" so if she misbehaves I should just redirect her with something else, otherwise she will just get "sulky and shut down" or something to that affect. I was like, yeah no, I'm not playing referee to this kid, so I told her no plenty of times. Once she sat her bratty ass down and the floor and plugged her ears with her fingers and closed her eyes to shut me out. That little bitch never got invited back......
 

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