piopio12 wrote:

I don’t really care for he mommy guilt side. I actually thought it was inauthentic. I’m not a mom, so this is literally me just being an asshole, but she said she felt guilty, but then said she was a mom that has to work for her sanity? Is that an actual thing?

Also, waking up at 5:30 is not excessively early. Sorry ladies. I’d take their schedules any day. Wake up at 5:30, work till 12. Three hours to do whatever’s? Sign me up.

But I am excited to watch it! It looks like it’s dojng good. Like 5000 views in 24 hours?

I think that yes it is a real thing. And maybe I wouldn’t have realized that before I was a mom. I was a SAHM for a year and then I decided I needed to work for my sanity. I love my children more than I can put into words but 24/7 with no break for anything drove me insane. I wasn’t a good mom and I certainly wasn’t a good wife or human at that point. I now work part-time and I have very little free time but I’m much much happier.

Also to me 5:30 is excessively early. Due to work I don’t get to bed until 11 or 12, a child may or may not wakeup once a night and then to have to be awake at 5:30? I couldn’t do it. Thankfully I wake closer to 6:30/7. My husband can function on 5 hours a night and he often does. For me, that’s way too little sleep for my health and sanity,
 

FKCSTMom wrote:

Longtimelistener wrote:

piopio12 wrote:

I don’t really care for he mommy guilt side. I actually thought it was inauthentic. I’m not a mom, so this is literally me just being an asshole, but she said she felt guilty, but then said she was a mom that has to work for her sanity? Is that an actual thing?

Also, waking up at 5:30 is not excessively early. Sorry ladies. I’d take their schedules any day. Wake up at 5:30, work till 12. Three hours to do whatever’s? Sign me up.

But I am excited to watch it! It looks like it’s dojng good. Like 5000 views in 24 hours?

I think that yes it is a real thing. And maybe I wouldn’t have realized that before I was a mom. I was a SAHM for a year and then I decided I needed to work for my sanity. I love my children more than I can put into words but 24/7 with no break for anything drove me insane. I wasn’t a good mom and I certainly wasn’t a good wife or human at that point. I now work part-time and I have very little free time but I’m much much happier.

Also to me 5:30 is excessively early. Due to work I don’t get to bed until 11 or 12, a child may or may not wakeup once a night and then to have to be awake at 5:30? I couldn’t do it. Thankfully I wake closer to 6:30/7. My husband can function on 5 hours a night and he often does. For me, that’s way too little sleep for my health and sanity,
 

 
I have to agree with Longtime Listener. I think I tried to say it above, but with (especially) my first child, although I tried staying at home and thought I wanted nothing more than to do so, I was going to go crazy if I did. I needed to be out of the house and go back to work or no one in our house would be happy. And while I was happy being at work and with adults again, I still felt such guilt that she was in daycare and didn’t HAVE to be. That I was a shitty mom, selfish for putting myself before her; yadda, yadda....you know the drill.

With our second child, I HAD to go back and didn’t WANT to and that was even worse (the kids are 5 years apart so it was like having 2 first babies).

I’m a better mom because I leave to go to work/school each day. Work for sanity is very real.
 

First - I loved the video. I thought it was real and authentic.

Second - I think it’s hard for me to understand the workday someone like her had. For me it seems like she doesn’t work as many hours or that she has THREE FREE HOURS!!? But then I think that I truly believe she’s hustling so there is something that I’m missing. I guess I can understand how it may seem inauthentic.

Third - Mom guilt is real.
I stayed at home with my kids for 4.5 months, and it was HARD. So hard that I knew I couldn’t be a SAHM; not that we had that choice financially but I just didn’t feel like I could handle it and I needed adult interaction. (NOTE: My mom was a SAHM, so I have an incredible appreciation for it)

I think that it’s hard both ways, it’s just different hard. SAHM is mentally draining and emotional. Working moms feel guilt that they can’t be with their kids. For most of us, I don’t think staying at home is a choice so we just learn to live with it. The real kick in the ass is that there is no having it all - if you’re killing it at work, you’re probably not at home with the kids enough or spending enough quality time. If you’re doing everything right by your kids, you’re probably not focused or present enough at work. And no matter which you’re doing well at, it’s just guilt on guilt on guilt.

Note: I’m sure everyone on here is an awesome mom. I mean no offense.
Note 2: I expect no sympathy, just expressing my thoughts.


And sanctimommies are the worst.

Last edited by PrincessPoppy (5/08/2018 5:07 pm)

FKFriday wrote:

New episode up!

https://youtu.be/NpDmPDmTNLw

thank you for letting us know. i just watched it, it just makes me love here so much!! she is just GOALS AF

I'm just catching up on Nicole's show and on last week's episode she had the ICHoes on there- Lauren and Jayme. It was interesting seeing them and hearing them talk after speculating about them over the past years.