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Husbandpillow · 3/17/2016 11:31 am

Just listening now so I haven't heard the whole thing, but at first she talks about her college friend Lauren, and how Taylor did not acknowledge Lauren's mother's death for 3 months because she was at Andi's wedding

Husbandpillow · 3/17/2016 11:32 am

She also said she doesn't fully understand why Lauren is mad at her about this! SERIOUSLY!?!?!? Can you imagine if Babette died and one of her friends didn't acknowledge it for 3 months!? Taylor would murder them.

MyWife! · 3/17/2016 12:12 pm

Husbandpillow wrote:
She also said she doesn't fully understand why Lauren is mad at her about this! SERIOUSLY!?!?!? Can you imagine if Babette died and one of her friends didn't acknowledge it for 3 months!? Taylor would murder them.

I have thought about this many times. Taylor says she doesn't put expectations on other people. But I am willing to bet if one of her parents died, she would cut off anyone who didn't show up or at least acknowledge it.

secco · 3/17/2016 12:28 pm

MyWife! wrote:
Husbandpillow wrote:
She also said she doesn't fully understand why Lauren is mad at her about this! SERIOUSLY!?!?!? Can you imagine if Babette died and one of her friends didn't acknowledge it for 3 months!? Taylor would murder them.
I have thought about this many times. Taylor says she doesn't put expectations on other people. But I am willing to bet if one of her parents died, she would cut off anyone who didn't show up or at least acknowledge it.

Expecting your friends so show some semblance of caring after your mother dies is not exactly asking for the moon... I would categorize that under having "low expectations." THREE MONTHS to ACKNOWLEDGE something so devastating is completely unacceptable. That is a real case of "you find out who your friends are"

Lemondrop718 · 3/17/2016 1:09 pm

She said that she was somewhere with no service and a text wasn't enough, but it's better than nothing. Also she could've asked her roommate for some privacy to FaceTime about this serious issue, lame excuses to me. And then on top of all that it's 3 months until she acknowledges it??? That's so crazy to me. I agree that expecting some compassion and care from friends when a parent passes is not an unreasonable expectation! It's common courtesy, especially for a best friend. And Carin says apologize and the rest is her shit? I half listen because I don't like Carin but that seems to be enabling Taylor's crappy treatment of a friend, and putting it back on the friend.

wintercici · 3/17/2016 1:23 pm

There is no excuse for waiting 3 months. Texting "I'm sorry I'm not there, but please know my heart is with you" when it happened would have been fine. She's in the process of burning bridges again. I'd be done with her if I were in that group of girls.

Husbandpillow · 3/17/2016 1:33 pm

This incident is inexcusable in a friendship, and just cements Taylor's status as genuinely terrible human being. To not only not acknowledge the death of a good friend's mother, but then also to say that while you are sorry, you also believe you did not do anything wrong, is unforgivable. This is also the same friend whose bridal shower Taylor wanted to skip so she could hang at her brother's girlfriend's lake house, and Taylor threw many fits about it on-air. If I was Lauren, I would bid Taylor farewell. Nobody needs a friend like Taylor.

MyWife! · 3/17/2016 1:44 pm

I agree to everything you ladies said. I feel like they maybe have bid her farewell. She may not be accepting that fact and thinks everything will eventually be fine. But it seems to me, they no longer want her as a friend.

FKFriday · 3/17/2016 1:58 pm

Lemondrop718 wrote:
And Carin says apologize and the rest is her shit? I half listen because I don't like Carin but that seems to be enabling Taylor's crappy treatment of a friend, and putting it back on the friend.

I couldn't believe Carin was ok with the situation and said she had done all she had done.

lydia delainey · 3/17/2016 2:12 pm

Taylor defending her shitty behaviour was difficult to listen to. How can she think that she has no reason to be sorry? She said that different people need different things, and she didn't know what Lauren needed. BS, Lauren wasn't needing anything more than anyone whose Mother just passed would need. Tay said that she would want to be left alone in that situation. Yeah right Jackie.

DontDoItGal · 3/17/2016 2:52 pm

that is absolutely brutal! I'm actually speechless.

SoftPretzels · 3/17/2016 3:22 pm

I am fucking baffled at Taylor and her spoiled, entitled logic! I posted this in another thread:

What's worse is she won't admit she's wrong..... She is wrong plain and simple.... She still wants to hold steadfast to the "I didn't do anything wrong. I couldn't overcome the circumstance." Again this is projecting a bit but I experienced a major loss and someone who should have been there for me was not and our relationship is suffering because of it.....It was 1 1/2 years ago when I experienced this loss.... It was a blur of months...especially the first few weeks....the days bled together.......even though I barely remember how I got through it all, I remember who was and wasn't there for me when I needed people the most.... I'm sure her friend just needed to hear that Tay was there for her and she wasn't.....it also is insult to injury that she was capable of posting pictures of her "desert squad" photos without issue.

I know Tay was going through the divorce stuff but IMO those experiencing a major death trumps selfish divorcee moments

wintercici · 3/17/2016 3:41 pm

SoftPretzels wrote:
I am fucking baffled at Taylor and her spoiled, entitled logic! I posted this in another thread:

What's worse is she won't admit she's wrong..... She is wrong plain and simple.... She still wants to hold steadfast to the "I didn't do anything wrong. I couldn't overcome the circumstance." Again this is projecting a bit but I experienced a major loss and someone who should have been there for me was not and our relationship is suffering because of it.....It was 1 1/2 years ago when I experienced this loss.... It was a blur of months...especially the first few weeks....the days bled together.......even though I barely remember how I got through it all, I remember who was and wasn't there for me when I needed people the most.... I'm sure her friend just needed to hear that Tay was there for her and she wasn't.....it also is insult to injury that she was capable of posting pictures of her "desert squad" photos without issue.

I know Tay was going through the divorce stuff but IMO those experiencing a major death trumps selfish divorcee moments

Exactly, and T says she's not devastated over the divorce anyway, because it had been building for so long. That's not the reason she's a shi*** friend no matter what she claims now.

Wakeupfan420 · 3/17/2016 3:46 pm

SoftPretzels wrote:
I am fucking baffled at Taylor and her spoiled, entitled logic! I posted this in another thread:

What's worse is she won't admit she's wrong..... She is wrong plain and simple.... She still wants to hold steadfast to the "I didn't do anything wrong. I couldn't overcome the circumstance." Again this is projecting a bit but I experienced a major loss and someone who should have been there for me was not and our relationship is suffering because of it.....It was 1 1/2 years ago when I experienced this loss.... It was a blur of months...especially the first few weeks....the days bled together.......even though I barely remember how I got through it all, I remember who was and wasn't there for me when I needed people the most.... I'm sure her friend just needed to hear that Tay was there for her and she wasn't.....it also is insult to injury that she was capable of posting pictures of her "desert squad" photos without issue.

I know Tay was going through the divorce stuff but IMO those experiencing a major death trumps selfish divorcee moments

Sorry for your loss girl! My husband lost his 19-yr old brother in 2010 and it was probably the most difficult thing we've been through in all our years together. I didn't know what I was supposed to say or do, and it was uncomfortable seeing him in pain like that, but just being there was enough.

secco · 3/17/2016 9:44 pm

I haven't listened yet, was Kenny there? Did he have a reaction? I hope he wouldn't condone this or act like it was no big deal...

SoftPretzels · 3/17/2016 11:20 pm

Wakeupfan420 wrote:
SoftPretzels wrote:
I am fucking baffled at Taylor and her spoiled, entitled logic! I posted this in another thread:

What's worse is she won't admit she's wrong..... She is wrong plain and simple.... She still wants to hold steadfast to the "I didn't do anything wrong. I couldn't overcome the circumstance." Again this is projecting a bit but I experienced a major loss and someone who should have been there for me was not and our relationship is suffering because of it.....It was 1 1/2 years ago when I experienced this loss.... It was a blur of months...especially the first few weeks....the days bled together.......even though I barely remember how I got through it all, I remember who was and wasn't there for me when I needed people the most.... I'm sure her friend just needed to hear that Tay was there for her and she wasn't.....it also is insult to injury that she was capable of posting pictures of her "desert squad" photos without issue.

I know Tay was going through the divorce stuff but IMO those experiencing a major death trumps selfish divorcee moments

Sorry for your loss girl! My husband lost his 19-yr old brother in 2010 and it was probably the most difficult thing we've been through in all our years together. I didn't know what I was supposed to say or do, and it was uncomfortable seeing him in pain like that, but just being there was enough.

Thank you.... And I think that's all a lot of people grieving want is to know you're there for them! <3 I am sure your husband appreciates you for that..... Also I'm sorry for his and your loss.

Wakeupfan420 · 3/18/2016 4:32 am

Thank you 💗

Durst_Burp · 3/18/2016 6:10 pm

Ok so to possibly fuel two conspiracy theories at once- I've noticed its been months since a picture of Tay & Nicole together has been posted on Instagram. Could be because they aren't as close/are having problems, but maybe it's because they are filming together?

Getmommieouttathabox · 3/18/2016 6:33 pm

Tay commented on the daughters pic the other day. Could just be Tay has been spending time with td. We all know she doesn't post much on insta

FKCSTMom · 3/18/2016 9:43 pm

I've lost my father and mother at a relatively young age (I was 36 when my mom died and 45 when my dad did) and I can tell you from experience you REMEMBER those who surrounded you and picked you up at your lowest point. Both my sister and I had friends who FLEW IN from other states because they cared. Mind you, these are not people I talk to daily or go on vacation with...but they are people who have been great friends for a short or long time and knew that now was when they were needed most. Taylor might have been at an ultra-exclusive wedding of the most fabulous people she knows (that she didn't beg for the invite on the radio) but the "right thing to do" would have been to get in whatever mode of transportation she could find (regardless of cost), as soon as she returned, and headed to Lauren's side. End. Of. Story. That's what real friends do. Not wait 3 months then talk about it like you are the victim on the radio. Ugh.

FKCSTMom · 3/18/2016 9:49 pm

And sorry for your loss, SoftPretzels....

Kicked_off_the_trampoline · 3/18/2016 10:44 pm

FKCSTMom wrote:
I've lost my father and mother at a relatively young age (I was 36 when my mom died and 45 when my dad did) and I can tell you from experience you REMEMBER those who surrounded you and picked you up at your lowest point. Both my sister and I had friends who FLEW IN from other states because they cared. Mind you, these are not people I talk to daily or go on vacation with...but they are people who have been great friends for a short or long time and knew that now was when they were needed most. Taylor might have been at an ultra-exclusive wedding of the most fabulous people she knows (that she didn't beg for the invite on the radio) but the "right thing to do" would have been to get in whatever mode of transportation she could find (regardless of cost), as soon as she returned, and headed to Lauren's side. End. Of. Story. That's what real friends do. Not wait 3 months then talk about it like you are the victim on the radio. Ugh.

Well said!! Also, Taylor was pissing me off so much with her lame ass excuses for why she couldn't even text her friend...and to make it worse, she was eating those damn donuts and smacking her lips whilst making the excuses.

Kicked_off_the_trampoline · 3/18/2016 10:45 pm

Kicked_off_the_trampoline wrote:
FKCSTMom wrote:
I've lost my father and mother at a relatively young age (I was 36 when my mom died and 45 when my dad did) and I can tell you from experience you REMEMBER those who surrounded you and picked you up at your lowest point. Both my sister and I had friends who FLEW IN from other states because they cared. Mind you, these are not people I talk to daily or go on vacation with...but they are people who have been great friends for a short or long time and knew that now was when they were needed most. Taylor might have been at an ultra-exclusive wedding of the most fabulous people she knows (that she didn't beg for the invite on the radio) but the "right thing to do" would have been to get in whatever mode of transportation she could find (regardless of cost), as soon as she returned, and headed to Lauren's side. End. Of. Story. That's what real friends do. Not wait 3 months then talk about it like you are the victim on the radio. Ugh.

Also, I am sorry for your losses FKCSKTMom

SoftPretzels · 3/19/2016 2:09 am

FKCSTMom wrote:
And sorry for your loss, SoftPretzels....

Thank you. I'm sorry for your loss. And you are so right. It's hard to explain unless you experience it but everything in the moments seem like they are a passing blur yet time has slowed down..... I can only remember key moments from when the police came to my house to tell me and up until the funeral.... But what always stuck out is who surrounded me....even through words and long distance....and additionally who didn't.

FKCSTMom · 3/21/2016 9:21 am

I need to warn you this is going to be a rant...it initially didn't start out that way but it gained steam as I remembered the conversation.

I was finally able to listen to the Carin Rockind/Taylor segment yesterday about the 'big thing with a friend's major loss' and I almost (ALMOST) gave Taylor a pass...and thought she was truly sorry. I still think she might be 'sorry' and feel bad.

Up until she said, "I STILL DON'T KNOW WHAT I DID WRONG..." WTF????? You don't know what you did wrong????? Let me tell you Taylor since everyone else kisses your privileged ass:

One of your best friends from college lost her mom suddenly (correct me if I'm wrong here guys!) and you were out of town...all things out of your control. However, you did know about it.
1. You didn't call, using the excuse (on the radio) there was no cell service. I'm guessing the fanciest hotels in America do not have 'real phones' anywhere on the premises?
2. You didn't FaceTime, using the excuse (on the radio) that you could have, using wifi, but you didn't know your roommate and didn't want it to be awkward. I'm pretty sure someone you SLEPT in the same room with would understand if you said, "I need to make a phone call while you are in the shower...my good friend's mom passed away. So if you hear me crying/talking/laughing (yes, I laughed & cried at the same time as people from far away called and talked about my mom and how much she meant to them) it's going to be me talking to her. But I'll make it quick.
3. You could have called (FaceTime) during one of your fabulous painting classes and told said roommate (who you didn't know very well) to tell everyone you'd be a few minutes late without ever mentioning why...so you didn't have to put a damper on any of the joy at the most "fabulous wedding in the world."
4. Your biggest excuse that you are holding on to, and that your Happiness Guru (cough) is giving you a pass on (and once again someone is patting you on your shiny hair and saying "It's ok, Taylor") is that you didn't want to send such an important message in a text. BULLSH*T It could have been as simple as "God L. I just heard. I'm so sorry and I sad I'm not there. I'll be back on (fill in the blank) and see you then. I love you so much. T". But to hold on to "there was too much to say to put it in a text" and then not even reach out for 3 MONTHS and on top of that, have Rockind say "that's HER SHIT'??? Come on!
5. Finally, you couldn't control the other people but add this to all of the above...posting your fun to Instagram. And having your friend with a dead 'person' see that shit...along with radio silence from YOU...frankly, I would have never spoken to you again.

You don't see anything you did wrong here Taylor??? I think you feel bad, and sounded sorry...but you actually sounded like you were baffled by what you did wrong. Good Lord...

You treat people like they are disposable and want them around when Queen Taylor needs them. Your 'leave me alone' attitude is going to get you where you want it with your true friends...left alone. And right now, you only surround yourself with people you think are famous and you think they can get you somewhere (did anyone hear her say her best friend is a blonde when they were talking about blondes last week?? I thought Nicole was her best friend?? Is she meaning Stassi?? Cause Stassi can bring her fame??) They got there by working hard.

Oh that's a different subject...enough said...point made. Seacrest out.

lydia delainey · 3/21/2016 9:48 am

Obviously Taylor D is the best friend-she's with her all the time(and she's blonde).

MyWife! · 3/21/2016 10:35 am

I don't think she waited 3 months to reach out. I'm pretty she said that she reached out after 3 days when she got back (and probably after all the guilt trips she got). I got the impression that she waited 3 months to hash it all out with her and have a little come to Jesus. Anyway, not making excuses for her. What she did was shit. But I'm pretty sure she did reach out after a few days.

piopio12 · 3/21/2016 11:57 am

I can't find it but whoever said what Taylor should learn from the Carin segment was stop eating on air. It was horrible!! and i never hear it normally, well except during FKF and it's kind of expected then.

Durst_Burp · 3/21/2016 12:02 pm

Speaking of that wedding...I don't know what made me think about it this morning, but it occurred to me that there has been zero mention of Andi or Jordan since the wedding on the show or on social media (Tay's or theirs). Around wedding time some people speculated she was invited when she was still with Brett/that it was kind of weird she was invited since it was so intimate. Could be nothing, but I do think it's kind of weird that they fell off the map as far as T is concerned.

On_Point · 3/21/2016 12:29 pm

Durst_Burp wrote:
Speaking of that wedding...I don't know what made me think about it this morning, but it occurred to me that there has been zero mention of Andi or Jordan since the wedding on the show or on social media (Tay's or theirs). Around wedding time some people speculated she was invited when she was still with Brett/that it was kind of weird she was invited since it was so intimate. Could be nothing, but I do think it's kind of weird that they fell off the map as far as T is concerned.

Andi had a pic on a video shoot on Insta last week (I think) and she tagged Tay and TD. I believe it was an interveiw with the lady from BagelBytes? Don't have any other details..

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